Among Psychologists, there are two schools of thought on this topic. Years ago, the Psychological community helped people probe into their backgrounds; their history, to find out what their problems are. To understand their issues, first, then work on resolving them. The new thinking is, why bother? What's the point dwelling on the past? What's done is done. Instead, let's focus on the future, what can (and hopefully will) be. What do you want to become? Now, let's figure out how to get there.
"Without goals, and plans to reach them,
you are like a ship that has set sail with no destination."
-- Fitzhugh Dodson
The former, can be a very long process, without a clear end. The latter, is much more "efficient", you state a goal, work on it, reach it, then leave therapy. I suspect, insurance companies have a lot to do with this approach. I'm not sure which I believe in, both seem to make sense to me. Hey, in my last posting here, I spoke about understanding the issue before you can solve it. Yet, about two weeks ago, I spoke about a vision for myself. Part of me tends to dwell on the mistakes I've made in the past, and beats myself up over it. There's no value to that, only pain and keeping that pain alive.
I think I'm going to try and focus on both. What I'd like to become, my goals in life, and how can I get there. At the same time, I don't want make the same mistakes I've always made. So, I need to be a bit introspective, what mistakes did I make? How can I learn from those pitfalls, and act in a smarter way.
"If you always do what you've always done,
you'll always get what you've always gotten"
-- Jessie Potter
I think, as I keep writing in this blog, I'm going to flip flop between these two approaches.
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